Thank you to Georgie Baba for this beautiful meditation.
“When eye contact between two people is initiated and maintained, an invisible energetic circuit is established between the two participants, dissolving the barriers that ordinarily separate them from each other, drawing them ever closer into a shared awareness of union.” Will Johnson
Whether or not you are going to do this alone or with a partner, set out some form of intention about what you want to achieve with the process. It can be as simple as wanting to gain more comfort within yourself or with another, to looking into something deeper like past lives. You can also use this technique to connect more deeply with someone, understand their feelings, clear tension and so on. Setting the intention is quite simple, you say to yourself what you are looking to achieve and then allow that to be as you begin the process. In a partner situation, it’s best that both are setting out the same type of intention. In this instance for example:
“I intend to understand you deeper”
“I intend to open myself to someone I feel deeply connected to”
Before the practice begins, please take this moment to affirm to yourself that you are in this moment, safe, secure and are in trusting company. Things may arise and they may be full of joy, love, ecstasy, also grief, fear and anger may arise and that is okay too. This is where we establish our own inner landscape and any boundaries, for example I could state prior to the practice:
“My fear is that I will get self-conscious and will start laughing.”
“My boundary is to stay connected to you, even if resistance arises.”
It is important for us to communicate these before we begin so we can feel safe, open minded and present with the experience. Boundaries are dynamic, so it is important to check-in periodically with yourself to see if your boundaries have changed. If they have changed, update your partner so they can honour your new boundaries. If for example during the practice you feel extremely vulnerable or overjoyed, without breaking the connection, please openly and calmly communicate the internal dialogue to best comfort you in this moment.
Once you have shared your desires, fears and boundaries, begin the eye gazing practice. Traditionally, it is recommended that you begin by gazing into left eye. This is because the left side of the body is considered to be the receptive side. Using a soft gaze and remembering this is not a staring contest. It is OK to change eyes if and when you feel called too. Just relax, breathe and allow the experience to unfold. Notice what arises without judging it. Be open and curious, like a child, if laughter comes let it come, if awkwardness arises too let that come, they will pass, in the space of the mind reaffirm intention and stay with your own sense of self.
You can do this practice for as long as you want, it is nice to start with 2-5 minutes to begin for the first time, then you can work your way into more time. If you are developing your time frame, try closing the eyes, go inside, reconnect and when you are ready open your eyes again and begin the process again for longer, that is comfortable for you. When you develop the practice into extended time, there will be new levels of connection. Set aside a time when you can eventually practice for 45-60 minutes. It is a fantastic practice to find out about yourself and notice your resistances. If you feel that, let it be there and see if you can let it melt away.
A message from Georgie about the practice.
Use this video of Georgie for the practice if you wish …
Georgie’s contact details